Loving yourself is advice you have probably heard many times, but how to do it is often left out. The question of how is so integral to how to actually integrate this powerful message. This Valentine's day, let's talk about the most important relationship you will ever have in your life, and that is the relationship with yourself.
Sometimes people ask me, what is the difference between someone who is miserable and someone who is able to create contentment, wellbeing, health & love in their life? It really comes down to loving yourself, because when you are able to do that, you are truly able to let love in, and even more importantly you no longer need love to feel complete.
Years ago someone said to me, "you get the things in life that you have always dreamed of when you don't need them anymore." It's taken me years to truly understand the meaning of these words. In relation to love and relationships, I believe that you can truly have an incredible, transcendent, loving relationship when you don't need one.
It sounds odd that your changes of finding a true love match are exponentially increased when you give up the need for love. Loving yourself is the missing component, when you love yourself, and have a rock-solid relationship with yourself you aren't starting relationships based on lacking or need. This need for a relationship is instilled in us from the youngest age, and socialized into us constantly, probably more so for women.
Take a gamble on the biggest jackpot in the world which is true love, so give up the need for a relationship, the idea that you are unfit for life as a singular entity, and you can only be completed by another person's validation. You can rest assured that whether you do or do not find a relationship, you will live your life so much happier and healthier.
Happy Valentine's Day 2020,
All the best,
William Z. Brennan